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Mom has dementia. Dad’s too sick to take are of her.
Mom and Dad live at home. Mom has dementia, and up until a few months ago, Dad’s taken care of her: paying the bills, reminding her to take her meds, driving her to doctor’s appointments, etc. Dad’s respiratory problems have gotten worse, to the point where he passes out even when he has his oxygen tank. His doctors have taken him off his meds and told him to make the best of his remaining time. He’s worried about Mom and has talked to her about moving into assisted living so they can continue to be together, but Mom absolutely refuses and keeps saying she’d rather die in her own home. I feel like this situation is unsustainable. What can I do about it?
Read MoreMy brother broke our agreement.
My estranged brother “Tim” wants to move mom with dementia to his house in AZ, out of state and away from her friends and family in MS. We had an agreement that I’d take care of her personally if he took care of her financially. Now that he’s moving her, I can’t travel thousands of miles to uphold my end. I feel like the decision was made without me. Every time I try to discuss it with Tim, we get into an argument and it makes it even harder to do anything for Mom.
What should I do?
Read MoreSis says Mom has dementia, but I’m not so sure.
Mom’s in her 80s. Ever since Dad died two years ago, she has sat around the house doing nothing while dishes and laundry go undone and bills go unpaid. The house is also a mess. But she was like that BEFORE Dad died. HE paid the bills. My sister “Beth” says Mom has dementia. I think she’s just depressed, grieving, and lost, and Beth’s trying to order a naturally disorderly life. Our disagreement has already caused friction. DOES Mom have dementia? How can we tell for sure, and what do we do about it?
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