Posts by Leslie Nolen
FIL’s dementia has taken turn for the worse.
FIL has been in dementia care for 4 years. He was somewhat lucid when admitted, but lately doesn’t recognize his children, thinks dead people are alive, and thinks cereal is “cold white soup.” He acts paranoid, sees people who aren’t there, gets irritated at little things, doesn’t sleep much, and tries to fight the staff. He’s only 68, I feel like I’m watching him die in real time, and I’m both wondering how much longer he’ll have and feeling horrible for hoping it will all be over soon. Please help.
Read MoreDad’s early onset dementia has made it weird at work.
Dad’s 57 and has early onset dementia and wife and I moving him to a group home. This has taken time away from work. The only people at work I’ve told so far are the HR manager, to find out if my benefits will cover him as a dependent. I don’t know what to say to my boss. I’m afraid he’ll assume I’m not available to work late, can’t travel, and will not consider me for promotions because of caring for Dad.
Dad might live another 40 years, and my own life is getting sucked into this tornado. What’s worse, I feel guilty, and can’t take even MORE time to talk to a therapist about it. I feel trapped.
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