Posts Tagged ‘Agitation’
Dad gets upset when I leave.
Dad’s been in dementia care for 6 years. He’s still able to talk—mostly, so I can tell how he feels. And lately, he’s been…clingy. When I tell him I have to leave, he makes up a reason to stay, or he insists he should go with me. We repeat this ritual every visit, and it often takes me an hour and a half before I can actually get out the door. By then, it’s late, I’m exhausted, and I feel like I don’t have time to unwind. I know Dad won’t be around much longer, which makes me feel horrible for telling him I have to go. I’m having trouble drawing the line between what’s good for Dad and what’s mentally healthy for me. Thoughts?
Read MoreMom’s a “walker”, has fallen, and it’s scaring me.
Mom was diagnosed with dementia about a year and a half ago but still lives at home, as it’s not that far advanced and someone is always with her. She walks…A LOT. Not to the mailbox or the kitchen, but aimless walking. I’ll ask her what she needs, and she’ll say “nothing.” If I ask where she’s going, she doesn’t know. What scares me is that she’s fallen 4 times in 2 months, and one of them broke her wrist. I got her Hipsters so she doesn’t break a hip, but the thought that I have to watch her 24×7 to make sure she doesn’t break a bone is freaking me out.
Read MoreMom’s getting too much social stimulation.
Mom is a social wallflower. When we did the initial tour of her dementia facility, it seemed calm and quiet, with sunny spots where she could quietly read or take a nap. But the staff insist on having her participate in social events, which she hates. It just gets her agitated and it takes forever to calm her down. The staff say agitation is to be expected, and they want to increase her meds to calm her down. I think the problem IS the staff. Why can’t they just leave her in her room to enjoy peace and quiet?
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