Posts Tagged ‘Memory Issues’

Mom likes to talk. The problem–and it’s been this way for a LO-O-NG time–is that it takes her FOREVER to say anything, she repeats herself and gets mentally lost a lot of the time, and sometimes just kind of forgets where’s she’s going. Dad’s been with her for going on 60 years now, and on a good day, he’ll just finish her sentences. On a worse day, he’ll tell her she’s remembering things wrong. On a really bad day, he’ll just get quietly frustrated and walk into another room to take a nap while she finishes her story. I don’t know how to deal with Dad’s behavior, but I think it’s part of the problem. Doesn’t he realize Mom has Alzheimer’s or some other kind of memory impairment? I can’t believe they’ve let it go this long without doing something. Or maybe he DOES know and doesn’t want to acknowledge it’s real. I don’t know what to do. They’re still living independently, but Dad’s not in good health and I keep worrying about what will happen to Mom when he dies.

Moved Dad into a memory care facility 3 years ago. I check on him every day, talk, and bring him a treat (usually donuts). He seems happy, but he has me confused with the nurses, and says his kids never visit any more. I’m there EVERY OTHER DAY! My heart is breaking that he can go on and on about how proud he is of the daughter he imagines while his REAL daughter is standing right there. I feel like the REAL me doesn’t matter. Please help.